I pose an etiquette question: is it okay to eat with your shirt off if staying at a fancy resort? When is shirtless hotel dining reasonable, if ever?
Shirtless Dining At Fancy Hotel Restaurant?
A reader sent me the following picture she snapped this week at the Andaz Scottsdale:
She explained, “This was in the full-service restaurant, not the pool bar. Americans seem to get money before learning class.” She’s European and I thought that was an interesting and not-so-unreasonable observation.
In theory, I agree with her and would never be caught eating at a nice hotel restaurant with my shirt off. On the other hand, I probably would not have even given it a second thought if I saw this dude. These days, it seems that anything goes in the USA and I’ve more or less become immune to what might have traditionally offended sensibilities. Compare that to, say, the Hyatt Regency Mainz where I will not wear workout gear or even casual clothes down to breakfast: I put on my clothes for the day before eating. But Europe and Arizona are literally a world apart.
Then again, I wear shoes and socks to the beach so I’m very odd in that respect. The only place you’ll catch me with my shirt off is in the steam room or sauna. And I do periodically wear workout clothes to breakfast in the USA…is that really all that much worse than showing up to breakfast with your shirt off?
Finally, I’m not really interested in a debate here over whether women should be allowed to go topless if men are…that’s a whole different discussion. For purposes of this discussion, let’s limit it to men.
The question is straightforward: is it appropriate etiquette to eat with your shirt off at a fancy resort hotel or does the classic adage, “No shirt, no shoes, no service!” apply? I find myself rather apathetic in approaching this issue.