While at the Kempinski Ishtar Dead Sea, I experienced an unwelcome advance from the hotel hairdresser, who first asked me to take off my shirt, then pushed hard to accompany me back to my room for a massage, and for good measure tried to rip me off on my salon bill.
Hotel Hairdresser Pushes To Give Me In-Room Massage
I mentioned in my review of the hotel that there was an incident that occurred while I was there from a contractor. On my last day, I decided to get a haircut and reached out to the hotel spa for an appointment. The hotel does not have an in-house hairdresser and instead uses a contractor.
Once he arrived, I proceeded to the hotel salon for my haircut.
The man, who looked to be about 45, was quite pleasant but my “gaydar” went off based upon his speech, mannerisms, jewelry, and clothing.
A gay hairdresser. What. A. Surprise.
I was actually happy about that – he seemed confident and creative and I thought he’d do a good job with my hair.
Making assumptions based upon appearance or mannerisms is not always helpful, but in this case I tend to think my initial assessment was accurate.
The first thing he did was order me to take off my shirt.
“To wash your hair and for neck massage,” he explained.
I thought that was a bit odd, but okay.
I removed my shirt and after checking me out for a good five seconds and praising my abs, he washed my hair. I then sat back in the chair and he gave me a head (as in my skull), neck, and shoulder massage.
He then turned the chair around so that I was facing him and with a grin said, “How about I come back to your room and give you a full body massage? Only 60JOD.”
I could not help but to chuckle, but told him very clearly no thanks.
That did not seem to fluster him because he kept asking. And he kept asking if I had cash too. The answer was always no. I did nothing to lead him on.
Unfortunately, he did a poor job of cutting my hair. He hacked it and I thought it really looked terrible afterwards. Over and over he kept asking if I had cash and also asking if he could come back to my room with me. I wish he had focused on cutting my hair instead.
Once was done with the blow…dry he asked me once more if I had cash and said the haircut was 40JOD. I did not have cash and told him I would charge it to my room.
You should have seen the crestfallen look on his face. I soon discovered why.
A spa receptionist next door handed me a bill. The haircut wasn’t 40JOD, it was only 19JOD. The dude had not only tried to rip off my pants, but rip me off too.
I took this man’s picture and I have his name. I’ve decided to withhold both pieces of information from this story. Homosexual conduct is not criminalized in Jordan, yet homosexuals face social discrimination in a country that remains very conservative. I wish no harm on this man or his wife and kids.
But his conduct was not appreciated and he is not fit to hold a job at the Kempinski. I’ve forwarded this story to the hotel.
Here’s the thing: it’s one thing to flirt. I had my wedding ring on which should have been a clue, but then again, he had one on as well. I’m not offended that he made the proposition. But when I said no, that meant no the first time. There was no need to ask often. And the fact that he tried to rip me off too…well, I guess he did not think very highly of me after all.
I’ve put a link to this story in the hotel review, but this incident would in no way change my overall positive assessment of the hotel or decision to return. Still, I won’t go back to the hairdresser.
What have you been reduced to Matthew – a piece of meat?
a cute one at that. Better than the meat served on Kirby Airlines! Alas let me stop and refresh myself on the Ten Commandments
LOL!!! I have my hair cut religiously every 3 weeks with the same barber for over 20 years. Very old style barber, cash only, guy has a flip phone and no BS. I would never get a hair cut anywhere else. As for you guy, the request to remove the shirt was the red flag. Run away!!!! No way in hell I would let him touch my hair.
If you think you’re straight, watch gay porn and see how quickly you feel aroused. And how you can’t control that. You’ll soon realize that you can be sexualized by people who are like you.
We are all at some level nonbinary.
Not sure what drugs are you in but keep them to yourself.
I am just glad to get the clarification that Santastico and Fantastico are not the same person. It was unclear if a spelling error or not on some prior posts.
It’s actually not uncommon for chair massages at barbers in Middle Eastern countries, although might me strange for someone not accustomed to it. So that isn’t a red flag for me. As long as it was in the salon.
The request to go up to the room and give a full body massage is the big red flag. And the refusal to accept no for an answer is of course inappropriate and unprofessional.
I get a massage at my hair salon in LA. Indeed, that wasn’t the odd part. I thought the request to remove my shirt was odd.
Yes totally. I just meant in reply to Santastico, that I do not believe it is uncommon for barber massages in some countries for you to remove your shirt. But the other actions are what definitely, in my mind, made this inappropriate. Glad you were clear with the barber here!
When someone gets hair done at a hotel you know they have more money than common sense. Geez. Go into town or wait until you get home.
I was going to say exactly that. If anything, barber shops are great for people-watching, banter (assuming that you can speak the same language as the barber and/or fellow customers) and so on.
I had resort credit left – was going to do a facial scrub but did this instead.
If you’re still reading this thread, please clarify: Does this mean that the haircut was “comped” due to a resort credit or discount? I would have mentioned that immediately when asked about paying cash.
I had something like 100USD in spa credit that was part of the booking package. I used 75 for a massage and then the last 25 for the haircut.
The bill was 19 Jordan dollars and I doubt they are 1 to 1 in US dollars! Seems like a good deal. I wonder if there was a tip?
JOD is stronger than USD.
Really? I stand corrected!
Oh the barber wanted the tip alright. And the shaft too.
Do you blame him?
I am staying at the hotel now. Can you DM me the name of the stylist?
Tim Gunn or Dunn
Maybe hotel haircut is code for in room massage in this region
Please update the article with shirtless ab pics ASAP
It sounds like he wanted your money much more than he wanted a romp in the sheets. Given his behavior throughout, if you had been so inclined, my guess is that there would have been a demand for cash once the deed was done. Really doesn’t matter whether he was gay, he was targeting a westerner who he thought he could lure into a sticky situation (if you’re going to pun, so will I). Despite his affect, straight and gay scammers are willing to go to great lengths, and horny dudes traveling make a good mark, so I wouldn’t make any assumptions that this was just a gay/bi guy looking for some company.
Indeed, I’m confident JOD was his primary target!
Unclear. MK is stylish and attractive. The stylist could have been after a long term sugar daddy. Live and let’s.. fly.
Wonder what vibes Matthew must have been giving off for the guy to be that into him then? 😉
That’s not what I was implying. It’s well known that homosexuals are attracted to metrosexual straight men. Nothing new under the Jordanian sun
But they don’t go propositioning them for sex for cash…nothing new under the world sun, “KlintFanBoy”.
I am sorry that you don’t have a fan boy+I can’t be the only cis male one who thinks Matt is attractive. And yes, gay men proposition straight men all the time. Money talks-for some.
I do have fans, they just are not random anonymous people on line. Also, there is a difference between finding someone attractive versus being attracted to them…
“And yes, gay men proposition straight men all the time.”
A few, maybe, but rather pointless if they know the person is straight.
I don’t think wearing a wedding ring indicates anything these days other than that someone is in a committed relationship. Gay marriage is legal in many places and rings are exchanged.
It’s not about being gay or straight, just about being monogamous. I know polyamory is catching on, but it’s still not a big thing AFIK?
afik it’s big in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer, asexual and other sexually or gender diverse (LGBTIQA+) community..no clue about the straights
Not as big as you think it is.
Please check out some user profiles on homosexual “dating” apps and report back. Throuples are in.
*Some* being the key word…
Been a straight hairstyle for 13 years (straight longer lol). Never have I heard nor EVER done something like this. Just wow. I’m really stunned and very embarrassed how he represented us. I hope u won’t completely scare u away from your next salon visit. And good for u for handling the issue VERY well
He could have given you a nice manscaping. Trim the shrub.
the burning bush, as it were
I will say one thing and that’s often times the hotel’s massage therapists or hair stylists get a very meager salary and only a very small fraction of what you might be charged for the haircut/massage/etc.
Having said this I do think it was inappropriate of him.
Luckily (or unluckily) you met him at the salon for the haircut and not in your room which could have been very weird… (I say this as a gay traveller)
While I couldn’t help but laugh a wee bit reading this ordeal, the whole thing is very serious and ought to be treated as such. If he had been a member of staff i wouldn’t feel safe at the hotel after such an encounter. Just goes to show one ought to be careful while traveling
Great point. One does not want to live in fear but this world is a bit crazy. If the stylist wanted to attempt mild harmless banter or flirting to see if M engaged first, that’s one thing. Asking him to take his shirt off is another.
I read this article earlier but have a habit of reading too fast and just noticed the “blow…dry” LMAO
Was that 60 for the full body massage AND the haircut or just the massage—asking for a friend.
An extra 60JOD
an extra 60JOD or is that 60 a ‘JOB ?
As a gay person, I can tell you that we are not going around hitting on straight guys unless your in a gay establishment. That is a very dangerous situation. There are the very Few that are Foolish enough to do such things. Most gay people are not your stereotype. We are regular people and blend in with society. No again. A very few gay people hit on straight people. I don’t mean you Matthew at all. Just getting the word out.
Thanks for your comment.
I was staying at an American branded hotel in Germany a few months ago, working out in the hotel fitness center around 10:30 pm. Didn’t realize I was the only one left in the gym (open 24 hours) and I noticed the janitor eyeing me. Thinking he wanted to clean the equipment, I smiled and waved indicating 5 more minutes. Five minutes later I’m toweling myself off and stretching and along come the middle eastern janitor and makes it VERY clear he is interested in MY equipment and his. I smile and thank him and decline (I am gay and in pretty good shape) and he looks crestfallen. I get it though…business travelers and repressed sexual feelings in strict-code middle eastern families. I do wonder if they ever get what they want ? Interestingly, there were no security cameras in the fitness center . . .
Thank you for sharing this very arousing story.
I think I saw this scene on PornHub !
There’s a bit of a strange standard in most Middle Eastern countries: playing the active role in a gay coupling is considered OK; the other role is considered bad and punishable.
Somehow reminds me of a story from William Bradford’s MA Bay Colony: when I boy was caught buggering a sheep, the sheep was executed.