A very bold young man flirted heavily with my wife on my JetBlue flight from Paris to New York, even though she was traveling with me and the kids and wearing a wedding ring. We all got a chuckle out of it.
JetBlue Seatmate Takes An Interest In My Wife
As we boarded our JetBlue flight from Paris to New York, my kids went first, followed by my wife and me. The A321 cabin was configured 3-3 and my daughter took the window seat, my son took the middle seat, I took the aisle seat, and my wife took the aisle seat across from us.
Almost immediately, a young man (pictured above) right in front of us started speaking to my wife, Heidi:
“You’re so gorgeous. I’ve never seen a more beautiful woman.”
My wife just smiled, but ignored him. Yet he continued.
“I’d love to take you out. Do you live in New York?”
Heidi turned to look at me and started laughing. I started laughing too. Then she said:
“I don’t think my husband would approve.”
The guy looked a little sheepish and turned back to his seat. I saw his puffy hat the entire flight, but we otherwise did not hear from him again.
My wife gets hit on all he time by guys…at the gym, at work, and yes, on airplanes.
I trust her. I like the way she handled this.
And honestly, I get that we live in 2025…an era when rings don’t mean much, relationships are often open, and the Zeitgeist is “if it feels good, do it.”
But that’s not our relationship and I feel secure enough in our marriage that I can laugh about something like this rather than be afraid. And what a compliment to her…this guy looked like he was in his early 20s.
I did not marry Heidi for her outward beauty alone, but for her inner beauty. For our shared values and for her fierce loyalty and honesty (which can certainly hurt sometimes when I mess up).
And there’s something about that guy’s boldness that I admire. Certainly, in an era in which so many men live in an online world that distorts genuine relationships, he at least made an effort…and I suspect that has worked for him in other contexts. And in his defense, my wife was seated across from us. The fact that he backed off makes me much more sympathetic.
CONCLUSION
Getting hit on by guys is a fact of life for my wife Heidi (I only get hit on by guys too….which is itself an interesting phenomenon). While I’m certainly thankful for every inch of her beautiful body, I’m also thankful that she is loyal to me and that even after 11 years of marriage, we continue to grow in love for one another.
I swear it was not me!
That hat shows that he is a man who fears nothing.
I’m older now but used to say that my wife doesn’t let me date, which explains and tends to deescalate the situation.
Did you check if she asked for a blanket?
JUST KIDDING!
By the way, he’s an asshole and will run into someone not as kind as both of you and get what he deserves l
How is he an asshole? This is how you get dates.. well one way anyway.. i was usually a little more subtle from the start. He’d only be an asshole if he didn’t back off
He had to notice she was with her family and had a wedding ring. A plane isn’t a swingers club. The asshole had no respect for either of them.
@Dave … Agree . Ladies ought to dislocate his knee with a swift karate kick .
Why? He flirted, she said no, he got the message and moved on. End of story.
@Aaron … Because dislocating his knee would be an educational benefit for him .
Which would be what, exactly? He already seems to understand no means no.
Maybe he was hoping she was the nanny
@Billy Bob you won’t get through to these petty, jealous men who feel threatened by every man who looks sideways at his wife. Men who are confident in themselves as husbands and confident in their marriage aren’t bothered by a bit of casual flirting like this. These reactions betray a deep sense of insecurity and lack of trust in the women who have endured what must be a pretty tiresome life with them for so very many long, exhausting years…
The good news is no one is hitting on the hag of a wife you have Pete. Maybe buying a razor to shave that 70’s Earrh Mama bush of her might be a good start.
Is this better than picking on those backward kids of yours?
No, my opinion of you remains as low as ever, Dave. So well done for that. Keep up the good work.
Saw something similar happen a couple of times but not in an airplane and it’s usually either the edibles or booze talking. Glad that everything was resolved on its own and congratulations again on finding a keeper.
@Malik … +1 .
Also , Bernhard Goetz resolved the threat from four subway accosters on his own . ( 1984 , as featured on the cover of Time magazine of April 8 , 1985 . )
Alert/Random Gawande/Aaron, you should head up from the basement and go to bed.
It’s funny how you went from calling Malik “not black” two years ago to now saying this. I guess that’s progress in your twisted mind.
It’s funny how you remember that, for someone using a random name like…curious as to where uou are posting from, given that accusing someone of someone from posting from their momther’s basement is so last decade…
I appreciate you disavowing racism. I’m pretty sure I said this somewhere before on here probably to you or someone else but, you do not need to feel to “fight” on my behalf in the name of racism. I don’t care about anonymous, racist trolls on the internet.
@Aaron I have no clue who this person is and can’t even recall what this person is mentioning.
Looks like Pete Davidson. Very cute.
I personally would have told my wife, sure. It would save me the cost of buying her dinner on the trip. Or heck, she could ask if it’s ok to bring me along. We’ll find a babysitter.
Or maybe just bring Matthew a doggie back from dinner !
** doggie bag **
Why would I care?
Sure, buddy. You’re not all that.
I guess that depends on the lens through which you see the world, Tim. Matthew frequently gets compliments about his looks and body from some of the gay guys who follow this blog. I’d rate him well above average in the attractiveness stakes. He did, after all, get to marry a woman like Heidi…
Matt might appreciate it but he’s definitely not hooking up with an AIDS infected bone smuggler. He realizes their F’ing of monkeys killed Ryan White and many other innocents while they played victim over it. If they would just stop f’ing other in the a$$ the virus would have stopped but like the animals they are they couldn’t stop sticking it in the Hershey Highway.
Letting them adopt and be around kids truly is America’s shame.
No, America’s shame is that it produces people like you.
Dave is a loser at the game of life. If he topped himself tomorrow it’s unlikely that anyone would even notice, and if they did it would almost certainly result in a feeling of relief.
@Tim: You mean me?
I know I’m not all that! 😉
I recall years ago this guy telling me he won’t date super attractive women because of all of the stuff that goes with it including guys chasing after them, “maintenance” expenses (hair, makeup, mani/pedi, etc.
.. quite the alternative to ‘trophy wife” …. maybe a ‘utilitarian wife’ instead ? …
… lol
I found it easier not to pursue high maintenance women, regardless of how society might rank their physical appeal (and a shockingly large number of “just nice looking” women are high maintenance). I never cared about those that might be more actively pursued. Any woman has a lot of options to cheat; I choose to date those who won’t. I happily dated and been in relationships and never spent a moment jealous.
For those criticizing the guy for pursuing a woman with her husband and kids there, I can assure you from his banter that he is the type to notice an attractive woman is next to him and nothing else (ring included). He’s just like a car salesman who focuses on the male when a couple enters the showroom. It may not be “right,” but it is sufficiently successful.
Still got it 😉
Germany delivers. In the process came across a video of Matt from several years ago on a news station. Didn’t realize Matt picked up a slight Germanish accent.
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I’ll open up a ticket.
I appreciate that you both took it in stride. Some would have turned it into an anti-man tirade. You’re both confident in your marriage and not threatened by a guy shooting his shot.
The fact that he didn’t notice (or care) about the wedding ring is kind of a sad commentary on society and general etiquette, but hopefully your marriage is one of the ones that sets an example for others. Well done.
+100
Sad for this guy.
Good job for your wife.
Great job for on you.
We can all learn from this.
Yes, sir. If a “genie” offered the woman I know the following deal, they would be extremely happy: “I can’t stop men from hitting on you, but I can make them accept the first no and stop.” If a guy is respectful and PG in the flirt and backs off when told no, he’s OK in my book.
The weird thing is you took a photo of this donut.
Of course, because I wanted to write about it.
I”m just entertained by that goofy cap he had on for the duration of the flight ,,,, A lonely single mushroom popping its head up in a meadow … or is it his shrewd tactic for ‘Spiriting’ more carry on items ?
…. lol
I would never do such a thing as a gentleman! It’s you I’d be hitting on.
She would jump ship in a moment if it was I, the great platypus tongue hitting on her, but I’m more interested in you, stud boy.
Just goes to show you what type of Noo Yawk scum B6 attracts and has been marketed to. Their Chapter 7 can’t come soon enough.