Yesterday, I wrote about the man who flew business class and left his wife and kids in the rear of the plane. He said it was to work. Today, I want to discuss the woman who flies in business class and leaves her husband and kids in the rear of the plane. She claims it in support of feminism.
No, You’re Not A Feminist Hero For Flying Business Class
In a story for Insider entitled, “I’m a mom who flies in business class while my family stays in economy. We see it as a lesson on feminism, Kathleen Porter Kristiansen writes about her recent flight. Kristiansen is a former writer for The Points Guy who now authors her own website.
Recent viral…articles have sparked debates about the fairness of fathers sitting solo in Business or First Class while their wives and children remain in Economy. Being inherently contrarian, I decided our family would flip the script and do just the reverse on a recent 12-hour flight from London to Mauritius.
Being inherently contrarian is nothing to be proud of, but let’s continue:
It wasn’t about embracing luxury for the sake of it. Instead, it was about my boys witnessing their mom confidently relishing a different space on the plane, thereby understanding that traditional norms and expectations should not confine a woman’s place.
Oh honey, it was all about you embracing luxury. I fly all over the world in business class and the notion that a “woman’s place” is economy class is foolish. International business class is no longer a den of white males…
She also calls her choice to fly business class a “testament to my adeptness in navigating the intricate world of travel rewards.”
Good for you. Let’s all give her a pat on the back.
“The perplexed looks I received as I settled into my business class seat sans family didn’t faze me.”
Perlexped looks? Yeah right. Another middle-class American woman in business class does not create confusion in 2023…
In Economy Class, my husband was parenting, further debunking the outdated notion that men merely “babysit” their children. We try to instill in our sons that comfort and luxury are not exclusive to men and that they should not take such privileges for granted.
What a logical fallacy. Who says that fathers just babysit their children? Who says that comfort and luxury are exclusive to men? What rock does she live under?
I’m hardly a modern Susan B. Anthony…
No, you’re not.
…but it’s moments like these that I hope will mold my sons into men who not only comprehend the concept of equality but also incorporate it into their lives.
By you ditching the family in business class.
What a laugh.
This sort of tomfoolery is laughable. Here you have a woman trying to justify her leaving her family behind in business class on the basis of gender equality. Such rubbish!
As View From The Wing points out, “If this woman wants to take her critical theory seriously, then she has to answer for perpetuating inequality not just across society but even within her own family. She’s reinforcing class divides even as she thinks she’s breaking down gender ones!”
And that leads me to call her a traitor to the cause.
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But I want to contrast Ms. Kristiansen with a dear family I worked with for many years at Award Expert. The conservative Jewish couple had seven children: four girls and three boys. The father was a doctor and worked his butt off to provide for his family financially. The mother was a stay-at-home mom who was a Proverbs 31 wife in every sense, industrious and loving; passionate and hard-working. She carefully managed credit cards and sign-up bonuses, allowing for the family to travel the world.
Despite also working from dawn till dusk, the humble father recognized the tremendous and indispensable value of his wife’s labor and supported her one wish when she traveled: she sits up front.
Getting nine business class seats for international travel was not going to happen. I suppose he could have sat upfront with his wife and ditched the kids in the back, but he did not. He stayed with the kids in the back while his wife, who spent most days with their kids, rode upfront. It was a well-earned break for her.
It wasn’t for feminism. It wasn’t to make a political point. It was an act of love. And I love that family and remain so impressed by what they have accomplished together.
I’m not impressed by a “feminist” wanting to “stick it to the system” by flying business class and leaving her husband and children in the back. She’s not fooling anyone: this is not about showing her kids that women can fly business class, but a chance for her to relax on a flight (which I can’t blame her for). I do fault her disingenuousness, though.