I have only been married for eight years, but here is one thing I learned really quickly: only the best for your spouse. A sacrifice is an act of love. Today we explore this issue in the context of whether a husband can ditch his wife in economy class while he sits in first class.
Is It Fair That A Husband Books His Wife In Economy Class While He Sits In First Class?
Here’s the context:
- A man typically travels with his male “friend” to sporting events, leaving his wife at home to care for the kids
- This time, however, the man was traveling to a “new destination” and invited his wife along (and his friend too…)
- On the day of travel, the wife found she had been booked in economy class while the husband had booked himself and his friend in first class
- She protested and he responded, “I PAID FOR YOUR TICKET FFS!!! ISN’T THAT ENOUGH???”
- Nope, it was not enough – she refused to travel and stayed home
- Then the husband’s friend texted the wife also telling her how ungrateful she was
- On Reddit, she asked if she was in the wrong or her husband
To me, this is very clear-cut – the husband was totally in the wrong. For this matter, it seems I fall squarely in the majority camp. The issue is not whether the husband can afford an extra first class seat for his wife, but why he feels so little love for his wife that he is unwilling to offer the better (or at least equal) accommodation to her.
It’s really simple. The picture of marriage is dying to yourself to serve the other. When this is the goal, marriage can be a beautiful picture of love that promotes human flourishing.
There are so many warning signs here. I believe divorce is a very serious matter and our society makes it far too easy to cite “irreconcilable differences” to dissolve relationships. Marriage vows should be taken more seriously. At the same time, what a selfish man here. First, let’s dispel the notion that his wife does not work. My goodness, running a household and raising children is a full-time job, a hard one, and often thankless. She has earned my admiration for her role at home as mother, wife, and homemaker.
Second, what’s up with the friend? I have had “friends” who parasitically sucked my time and money for their own sordid gains. One of the great lessons I learned is that my wife always comes first and that there is great wisdom in raising boundaries between friends and your best friend, your spouse.
Finally, if she stays home and cares for the kids so that he can work outside the house and make money, that money belongs to her too. So when he buys a first class ticket for himself, she is paying for it.
I’m not necessarily calling this situation abuse, but this couple really needs to work on communication and re-evaluate priorities.
I do many things imperfectly, but if there is only one first class seat on a flight, my wife always gets it. And that’s not being chivalrous, per se, or to further outmoded notions of gender, but because I love her.
I’m on the wife’s side here. She should not be relegated to coach while her husband and friend fly upfront. It’s more than about comfort…it speaks volumes about his (lack of) love for his wife.